"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is like rotteness in his bones..." (Proverbs 12:4)
I have been following the True Woman 30-day makeover challenge over at http://www.truewoman.com/ , a thirty day journey through Proverbs 31 with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, and have discovered some amazing truths about the kind of wives we are called by God to be. Modern-day society would have us to believe just the opposite of the Biblical call to womanhood, but God does indeed have a concise plan for us to follow as women, wives and mothers.
As described in Proverbs 31, a wife does not bring shame upon her husband; she instead encourages him, building him up to his full potential. She is the behind the scenes cheerleader. She keeps everything running smoothly so he can focus on his God-given role of family provider. She doesn't nag or complain, but keeps communication open and gentle. She enriches his life, thus increasing HIS virtue.
Building up our husbands helps them to be more successful in their careers, their roles as husbands and fathers and ultimately, their roles as Godly men, heads of the household. You, as a Godly wife, wield much influence over your husband.
So how can we lift up our husbands? The first step is to examine ourselves! Before you begin to criticize your husband, first take a look at yourself: are there some things that you could change to be more of a helpmeet to your husband? Are you considering how some of your own actions may be causing your husband to act in ways that you find displeasing? We must remind ourselves that one of our most important roles is that of a submissive wife, and ultimately we are submissive to our husbands out of reverence for Christ. This is an important key to remember if you find yourself in a marriage relationship that makes it difficult to submit to your husband. Submission is really about pleasing God.
Ladies, I encourage you to bless your husbands! Help them to become men of virtue, men of honor and integrity. Help them be successful in everything they do. Don't forget to go to your knees daily to pray, to intervene for them! Remember to evaluate your own heart before you nag or complain. With your help, your husband can be the exact man you want him to be.
How can I encourage my husband today?